FATHER'S DAY

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This past weekend was Father’s Day. I tell my son as frequently as possible, “the best thing I have ever done in my whole life was to be your Dad.” There is nothing that makes me prouder than being a father to my son and a husband to my wife. I am far from perfect (as they will both attest to) but I always try my best. Sometimes I lose my cool. Sometimes I can be irritable and not the best company. But, I am not afraid or too prideful to admit when I’m wrong and ask for forgiveness. To me, being able to ask for forgiveness is a sign of strength, not weakness. Having the ability to admit to and take ownership of one’s mistakes is an honorable trait. No one is perfect and the sooner we admit to our human frailties the better it is for our own well-being and those around us.

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My priority in life right now is to spend as much time as possible with my amazing wife and son. They are my ‘why.’ They are my reason for working as hard as I do and they are the motivation I need to turn things around when life’s not going as planned. In my profession there can be many frustrations. But I learned something a while back that I try to keep in the forefront of my thoughts when faced with challenging situations, “we can’t always control our environment but we CAN control how we respond to it.” When I first heard that my mind was blown. In the past I had a tendency to blame the behavior or actions of others for my own behavior and didn’t properly take ownership of my response to a situation. I also learned that when confronted with others who are responding in a less than kind or professional manner towards me that their words, actions or reactions were never really about me, they were about them. Now my goal is to try my best to be empathetic to others and try to understand that they may be going through something at that time in their life and most likely have not been given the tools to respond better in a trying and stressful situation. Sometimes people are not able to manage their emotions. Maybe they recently lost a loved one, maybe they have a family member going through a traumatic situation, maybe they are not well themselves. There could be a number of things going on in that person’s life that made them react the way they did. As I’ve grown and matured as an adult I try to keep all that in consideration. 

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I have been blessed with a family that loves me and supports me and not everyone has that. I am beyond grateful for that love and support, especially from my wife and son. The joy they have brought and continue to bring to my life cannot be measured. They have helped me become someone that I can be proud of. I couldn’t always say that about myself. I cannot think of  a better gift someone can give you than helping you become a better version of yourself.  Thank you Paola and Darien!!! You’ve helped make me a better man.

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Happy Father’s Day to all the Dads out there!!